tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23284097.post2714481946069339977..comments2023-09-03T07:38:56.746-04:00Comments on Musings and Observations...: Out of the mouths of teens....Crazy Computer Dadhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00050349204017128913noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23284097.post-36447399712276679602010-03-15T21:24:46.950-04:002010-03-15T21:24:46.950-04:00In the end, the child needs to understand that you...In the end, the child needs to understand that you ARE the parent, and they are the child. I'm struggling with some of this with my 17 year-old, who I recently shared a few of the rights that I DO have as a parent, most of which he was glad I do not exercise. <br /><br />There's a delicate dance we do, isn't there? If we "give in" on occasion, they feel they have "won." As if relationships with other people are all about winning. <br /><br />It sounds like you're refraining from the age-old "Because I said so." Lately, when the answer is "no," I end the conversation by saying "end of conversation." Surprisingly, it works half the time! <br /><br />As for winning, I assured my son that even when he thinks he's won (by putting one over on me), he's lost (by way of a lost privilege, or a "want" that I am not willing to make happen for him... which, to date, includes agreeing for him to get his driver's license).<br /><br />Hang in there, Mike. It's tough, but I'm told it eventually passes.Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07489955518434293078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23284097.post-73021911438397991782010-03-11T15:07:14.595-05:002010-03-11T15:07:14.595-05:00I know exactly what you mean, my oldest has pleade...I know exactly what you mean, my oldest has pleaded, begged me to let him get his d.l. I have explained over and over it is not going to happen when he wants... because of my schooling and low paid job, I can not and will not get him his d.l. until he is 18 years of age. We end going through this conversation about three to four times a month. It's enough to hit a wall.<br />S.R.Summer Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03203620307253611515noreply@blogger.com