Tuesday, July 08, 2008


We need them badly here. It is a bit parched, and someone needs to dump a ton of rain on the burning swamp. I'm done with the smoke.

The thunderstorms have a down side. I spent two or more hours on Saturday afternoon waiting for the storms to lift to get out to surf and kayak. Eventually I went to the gym and shot some basketball.

The meetin group had an impromptu dinner at Shoguns, a Japanese restaurant. We had a great chef and a great time there. There was a little bit of unintended drama at the bar we tried to go to afterward. There was some kind of professional fight being broadcast. There was a $10 cover charge. I wasn't going to pay $10 for that place, and I certainly wasn't interested in the fight. I also wasn't drinking. I thought I made my intentions clear and said goodbye to everyone, but apparently not. Sorry, I didn't mean to miss anyone. Instead I just went home.

Sunday I got up early and went with a new friend to kayak in the Chesapeake Bay. We put in right at the Chesapeake Bay Bridge Tunnel. We paddled for a while and eventually crossed paths with two pods of dolphins. That was awesome. We then went to see the Incredible Hulk and lunch afterward. The rest of the afternoon was spent just relaxing. I met some other friends for dinner and stuff in the evening, but was home early.

People issues overwhelm me. People play games, but there are no rules. Mostly I feel it's impossible for me to win or even be competitive. Not everyone plays the same games, and not everyone plays games. I'm always at a loss as to what to say or do. It's like everyone knows the steps to the dance or the words to the song, but me. I can't say or do the right thing, mainly because I've no idea what that is. Several of these people all came at me at once today. Part of me says just brush it off, part of me says walk away and don't look back.


  1. Your last paragraph describes so many thigs in my life right now to a T.

    I'm not a fan of games, but if someone at least told me the rules I could join in.

    I say brush it off (it's them, not you) AND walk away. Games are no good.

    Hope you get the rain y'all need -- I love a summer downpour.

  2. Hmmmmm.... I'd disagree with that. Brush it off, yes. But walk away? Over one issue/misunderstanding?

    I'd say talk to the parties that were offended and gain some understanding of what happened. There's no blame to lay. If you're going to deal with people on a regular basis, and have any kind of relationship with them, there will always be good and bad times.

    Always walk away and you'll find yourself alone a lot... and word will get out that you bolt when the going is a little tought.

    That's not what I'd want people thinking about me. I'd foster those relationships... talk... and take them to a (even slightly) deeper place. Doing that makes people feel like they can count on you.

  3. Liz,
    I was pretty overwhelmed late last night. Things have calmed down today and look a little clearer. I think we're going to get some more thunderstorms and stuff tonight too. Saturday, it was nice watching the thunderstorms roll in and roll out. I even got to get out in the rain some!

    I have talked to just about everyone involved and cleared up several things today. Some people just confuse the hell out of me. :-)

  4. in the future, whenever you are confused by someone, just remember... the feeling is mutual ^_^

    this week is dragging ass already. saturday can NOT get here fast enough!

  5. I love the Thunder storms. We haven't had them here in a while either. But then again, we usually just get the rain. We need some soonest!

    And I hate games. I can't figure out why people want to waste their time and mine playing them rather than just stating their thoughts and intentions and moving on. Glad you were able to clear things up.

  6. Exception,
    Maybe our thoughts and intentions scare the bejeezus out of us and those around us? :-) By the way, I've been trying to work on a "memory" for "us" on your blog. I'm having a creative block. I'll post it when I think I have something good.


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